The Story of Hairy Pendant: A Weak Man's Imitation of Strength

I have been told that rudeness is 
the weak man’s imitation of strength. 

Well, I am sure that all of us have experienced 
rudeness in one form or another. 

 Certainly, it is a human trait that we all 
encounter from time to time and experiencing 
it here in Second Life is no different 
than that in Real Life, no matter what 
circumstance, event or location. 

I believe that we are all defined by our attitude, 
behavior, actions and humility. 

 A good case in point for me was a recent encounter 
that I had with a man over at Frank’s Jazz. 

When in open chat, there are often multiple 
conversations. As we all know, at times 
those conversations can get unintentionally 
combined, confused or misinterpreted. 

It was during this recent experience when I
 discovered a case of rudeness 
prompted by spells of severe male chauvinism 
and condescension over something that 
could have been resolved by a simple apology. 

Instead of being a gentleman, 
it was this weak man’s decision to IM me privately 
in his vain attempt to make himself feel
 better by being arrogantly condescending
 with a back-handed apology. 

(As many of you know, I seldom hold back
 lacking any response when it comes to
 calling a spade a spade.) 

For reasons of politeness, I changed his name 
to lessen any further embarrassment on his part. 

This new name I feel however is very appropriate. 

Here is how our conversation went:

“Hairy Pendent: I have absolutely no idea why you thought I was directing any sarcasm towards you.

I actually didn't even notice you in any conversation. 
I gave you the cheap shot in local,

and rose above it, because I was asked to by the host. 

(It's unfortunate that the host had to remind him to be a gentleman than by his own choice.)

But don't you dare do that to me again in here again! If you look back at the chat I was actually saying you were clearly intelligent  enough to understand sarcasm. 

( I sense that I am getting "bitch-slapped" into submission.)

Becky Kénaan: You say you rose above your own cheap shot? Well, that's very noble of you.  I will also catalog and save that one under my “Condescending” file.

Becky Kénaan: I think that it's best that we leave it at that and move on.  I believe that there was some confusion on multiple conversations going on at once.

Hairy Pendent: Every silver lining has a cloud, thankfully :)

(I am so appreciative of his dyslectic response.)

Becky Kénaan: Yes...it does indeed. That cloud over your head must keep you very busy I assume.

(this response was intended as playful sarcasm…hoping that he would be appreciative and 
"clearly intelligent enough to understand sarcasm.").

Hairy Pendent: On your part clearly, and it gave you the perfect opportunity to demonstrate your true colours. There was no confusion on my part...............I'm done.

(I was wrong... I actually think that he was well done. Sort of like burnt to a crisp.)  

Becky Kénaan: True.. but it would have been much more appropriate for you to just IM me and say "I am sorry for being rude to you."

That would have been a much better approach on your end. I did not see it as a fight unlike you. I just felt compelled to respond to your rudeness in public.”

The Morning After

Afterwards, I decided to look at this man’s profile to seek more meaning to his unwitting existence here in Second Life.

 Then, I found this very telling quote he made for himself which read as follows: “I used to walk into a room full of people and wonder if they liked me, now I look around and wonder if I like them.”

I am not a behavioral psychologist but it certainly doesn’t 

take much to understand that this man’s reasoning and perception is seriously flawed. 

 His statement is what professionals call "negativity bias." 

Unlike the Hairy Pendant type, most of us seek to find the good in all people. At least that was how I was raised. 

 I was taught to take the extra few seconds to get a sense of what's inside other people - especially their good qualities.

Many encounters or interactions often have a kind of “bumper-car” quality to them. 

In Second Life, we especially tend of bounce off of each other while we exchange thoughts, and then move on, disappearing into the mist.

Unfortunately, as in the case of Hairy Pendant, not all people think about the good qualities in others, but only a sprinkling of dimly-sensed good ones, making Hairy naturally feeling less supported, less safe, and less inclined to be polite. 

Plus, in a circular way, when somebody gets the impression that they don't really see much that's good in someone else, then that someone else is less likely to take the time to see much that's good in that other somebody. It is that impression which creates the negative bias.

I hope that this blog serves as a lesson for all of us. I am not perfect and I also make mistakes. 

 The difference is acknowledging your mistakes and being sincere in your apologies rather than being spiteful.

"Becky Da' Boop with Da' Scoop!"

Giulia Design's Eleonora Dress - A Delicious Body Conscious Showstopper

Starlight, star bright, the first star I see tonight... 

is you in this gorgeous Giulia Design Eleonora Mini Dress.

From fine dining to looking fine, 

this Eleonora Mini Dress is sure to be a showstopper!

The sophisticated styling of this bodycon dress has a hint of sizzle, 

a twist of suggestion, and a dash of eloquence which all 

wonderfully combine to make you the center of attention.

Whether you choose to dress played up to hit the town, 

go party, or for that special night out, you owe it to yourself 

to wrap yourself in this delicious body conscious mini - 

and then watch your evening turn into something magical. 

"I wish I may, I wish I might, make a wish 

in something as daring as this dress tonight."

Like many of you out there, I used to suffer from 

a confidence issue when it came to attracting men. 

Put me in a bar in front of a ­handsome man 

and I’d chat to him timidly until he went home — alone. 

Well, that has changed drastically since I started changing 

my attitude and appearance to a more suggestive tone. 

I began thinking about Angelina Jolie, who always wears these slinky type dresses that look as if they might fall off at any second (versus a Katie Price, who looks as if her dress has already fallen off. Ha!)

The reality is that women mostly seduce men, 

and that men are therefore destined to conquer women. 

This mini-dress certainly guarantees that, for you'll be the sexiest temptress all night long wearing this sinful dress.

This super-sexy Eleonora Mini Dress features a spaghetti strap top with a sweetheart neckline, a sexy slit hem with a lace print patterned finish and side seams guaranteed to make him completely yours.

So...when you're in the mood to feel fine, sexy and fancy, 

then take this Giulia Eleonora Dress out for a spin! 

Just remember to keep an eye in your rear view mirror
at all times - because the chase is on.

"Becky Da' Boop with Da' Scoop!"

VoguE Fashion's Carie Bikini - Where Surf Meets Sexy from Every Angle

Girls, check out this VoguE Carie Bikini! 

It looks great and has a perfect fit. 

It should come as no surprise when I tell you that I fell 

absolutely in love with this bikinis’ sporty body-hugging look! 

Directional, exciting and diverse, this VoguE Carie Bikini 

makes and breaks the beach fashion rules with a 

cutting-edge design which leads all others.

This VoguE Carie Bikini is inspired by bonfires on the beach, 

sandy toes, and sun-kissed summer days. 

And, here is where the Surf meets Sexy! 

Its bold bands and striking contrasts gives 
this Carie Bikini a push-up and sporty twist.

The low-rise cheeky bikini bottom features solid straps 

which criss-cross across the rear. 

I love the fabulous strap under the breasts, It makes me want to 

pull and then snap them back up against my sides. Ha!

Its vibrant neon butterfly print is reminiscent of the 60s. 

It possesses a sultry and head-turning silhouette 

which also makes it a real pool-side stunner!

This bikini whispers everything you love about the 

push-up look, with an attitude on the beach.

Sexy from every angle, this VoguE Carie Bikini will 

certainly stand out on the sand with its double-banded sides. 

Refreshing in appearance, the push-up sweetheart goes a bit retro with solid bands in a variety of high-contrast patterned colors. 

It comes in Black, White, Pink, Blue, Red and Lime. 

I really love the color combinations, the fun festive neon-like patterning, the multiple straps, tempting cutouts 

and the sun-catching appeal of this Carie Bikini.

"Becky Da' Boop with Da' Scoop!"

VoguE's Gia Gown: Sexy Eye-Catching Appeal with Modern-Day Glamour

Zal’s fashions at VoguE are taking new inspirational forms, 
and they're more sexy and stylish than ever before. 

Case in point - This VoguE Gia Gown.

Who needs a prince when you can be the bravest
of them all wearing this sexy plunge dress! 

This gown strikes the right balance between colorfully
alluring and sophisticated elegance, creating a figure-hugging
draped gown styled with a standout, skin-baring look. 

The sassy style features a stunning string tie-waist to nip in
your shape while at once revealing some of your best assets.

With its deep plunging draped neckline and hip string side ties,
it will give you enviable confidence. 

I absolutely love how the halterneck straps elegantly frame my shoulders while its fluid and graduated-color silhouette ensures eye-catching appeal without sacrificing modern-day glamour.

Wearing this dress, you should probably be off somewhere exotic,
like in Morocco or perhaps Casa Blanca right now.

It is just what you need to set the mood with your lover
before the clock strikes midnight on any ballroom dance floor,
ensuring you'll be the focus of his evening.

A girl can dream of many things.

One of mine would be looking like this all of the time
in the fabulous VoguE Fashion Gia Gown.

"Becky Da' Boop with Da' Scoop!"

VoguE's Cyana Gown - Splitting the Difference Between Fun and Formal

One of the great joys of shopping your wardrobe 

here in Second Life is to "Go Daring."

That is to say to wear something that’s a bit risky,
a bit outside the boundaries of what you'd usually wear in RL,
and one that feels a bit venturesome to wear...

Like this phenomenal Cyana Gown by VoguE Fashion.

What’s makes this gown daring is a combination of factors – not
so much the items in and of themselves - but rather the
culmination of style, the emotional uplift that it produces,
and the seductive mood it creates.

That being said, I dare you to make your ballroom entrance
in this spirited Cyana Gown by VoguE Fashion.

 All eyes will definitely be on you. 

Again, I must duly caution you. This dress comes with a warning label which reads, “Warning: Do not wear this gown if you prefer to be left alone. Doing so may cause body heat leading to seduction.”

Defined by a beautiful floral stem patterned
sweetheart neckline, the stunningly indulgent bodice gives
emphasis to the bust with its dark corset waistline.

If that isn’t enough to seduce the most handsome men around 
you, this dress offers even more alluring sexiness with its 
daringly flirtatious & provocative open front hem.  

This coquettish look reveals an even sexier side to your 
silhouette with its high thigh hemline, showing off your legs in stunning, figure-flattering style.

The high-low open front hemline perfectly splits
the difference between fun and formal. 

This dress is very versatile and suitable

for a variety of Second Life events. 

Looking closer at the details of this wonderful design,
it reveals pure elegance & sophistication. 

The fastening is beautiful to say the least. 
I love how its wrapped surplice style clinches at the waist 
and is then secured by a sumptuous starburst broche.

"Becky Da' Boop with Da' Scoop!"