The Narcissist's Harem: A 101 Arabian Reasons to Say “No Thanks.”

I have an acquaintance here in SL that I care about greatly, 
however I am concerned about his behavior. It has to do about his life style here in Second Life and his need to have a harem of women. 

 This has nothing to do about jealousy. 

 Rather, it has all to do about his mental health.

I don’t understand why he looks at women this way. 

 He is basically hoarding women. 

 Think of it in the same way that a hoarder
 finds comfort collecting objects. 

That said, I am convinced that he is narcissistic. 

Sadly, his behavior is a vain attempt to seek
emotional comfort by collecting women.

This is consistent with that of a narcissist who
always wants to be at the center of attention.

To him, women are objects whereby you are either part of his immediate narcissistic supply chain, potentially part of his emotional supply line, or you just don’t mean anything to him whatsoever.

Consequently, he accumulates a harem of women groupies
that he can turn to whenever he has a need for them.

These people I refer to as his object groupie harem.

They consist of so-called bi-sexual girls,
and also those that want to be "in."

The reality is that you serve only to boost up his crumbling
self-esteem by putting him up on a pseudo-pedestal.

A happy narcissist is one who has many options which
feed off his self-seen stardom.

And, let’s be honest shall we?

When he told me that he has zero drama having
one girlfriend and 18 subs to fill his harem, I knew right
away that he thinks he is in some kind of sexual nirvanna.

It only takes one jealous, catty woman to create drama
in this sort of environment. I think that the odds of him having no devious and catty females in his harem are nill to say the least.

At best, his actions reveal a profound fear of commitment.
At worst, it reflects a selfish mentality and reveals someone
that likes to keep his selfish options open.

So, if you honestly think you are going beat the odds with this type of man and sway him into a true loving relationship – think again.

Narcissists can be very charming people.
 They can also sweep a woman off of her feet.

The reality is that they just use people, leaving them hanging.

He chose his harem with his girlfriend.
I have a hard time wrapping my arms around this concept.

She must really be a piece of work.

He rationalizes his behavior by selecting bi-sexual women thereby reducing their expectations - living in a poly world of emotional distraction with these pathetic women by having himself treated to attention like a sultan.

As a women, why would you ever be so ready and willing to sell yourself short, just to have a piece of him in your life? 

What might be considered by others as somewhat fun
in the short term and something different, by showing him that you’ll put up with his narcissism puts you on an emotional rollercoaster doomed for failure - For the narcissist and his harem of women
are pathological, unhealthy and dysfunctional. 

When offered to join as a membership to his harem family, he would most likely throw you crumbs of affection to satisfy his insecure needs. Membership into his harem does have it’s privileges, but unfortunately the privileges are exclusively his.

So do yourself a big favor – if you find that you are being offered membership in a harem, its best to read between the lines and respectfully decline.

Tell him that you’ve decided to go elsewhere where you can share your true love and  self-respect exclusively and intimately with someone else – A special someone who appreciates your uniqueness in SL and doesn’t want to share you with anyone else.

"Becky Da' Boop with Da' Scoop!"